Why Perfectionism Could be Fuelling Your Imposter Syndrome: Understanding the Link Between the Two

When working with high-achievers, perfectionism and imposter syndrome are always two common challenges that they face, not just in their sporting, professional and academic lives but also in their personal lives. Many people  see them as 2 separate issues, but there is often a strong link between the two. 

In this blog, we'll explore the relationship between perfectionism and imposter syndrome and how they can impact our lives. It will also include some strategies that you can use to  overcome perfectionism and imposter syndrome  and start achieving greater success and fulfilment.

Perfectionism can be different for everyone as we all have our own perception of what perfect looks like, but generally it  is a mindset  that expects that everything needs to  be flawless and that it is unacceptable to have any mistakes or imperfections as this is a sign of failure. Perfectionists often set impossibly high standards for themselves and others, and this can be a good thing as it can give you the edge on others but many struggle feeling inadequate and feel that they are not good enough, if things aren’t done properly. The thing is that no matter how great the work is, it will never be good enough in a perfectionist's eye.

Perfectionism and imposter syndrome are closely linked because they both involve unrealistic expectations and a fear of failure. Perfectionists often set such high standards that are pretty much impossible to meet. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. This, in turn, can trigger imposter syndrome, as the perfectionist feels that they are not good enough and are only succeeding due to luck or external factors.

Perfectionists are their own worst critic  and even if someone pays them a compliment, they will not accept it. This can lead to a lack of self-compassion, which is a common factor in imposter syndrome. People with imposter syndrome often struggle to recognize their own accomplishments and may state that their success is due to external factors, rather than acknowledging their own hard work and commitment.

Imposter Syndrome Perfectionism can fuel imposter syndrome in several ways. 

• Overemphasis on outcomes: Perfectionists tend to focus on outcomes rather than the process. They may set unrealistic goals and expectations for themselves and feel like failures if they don't achieve them.

• Fear of mistakes: Perfectionists may have an intense fear of making mistakes, which can lead to procrastination and avoidance. This, in turn, can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

• Self-criticism: Perfectionists tend to be overly self-critical and may hold themselves to a higher standard than they would hold others. This can lead to a lack of self-compassion, which is a common factor in imposter syndrome.

• External validation: Perfectionists may rely too heavily on external validation and may struggle to recognise their own accomplishments. This can lead to imposter syndrome, as they feel like they are only succeeding due to luck or external factors.

Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome Breaking the cycle of perfectionism and imposter syndrome requires a shift in mindset and perspective. Here are some strategies that can help:

• Challenge negative self-talk: Both perfectionism and imposter syndrome are fueled by negative self-talk. Practice identifying and challenging negative thoughts and replacing them with positive, affirming ones.

• Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a close friend. Acknowledge your accomplishments and give yourself credit for your hard work.

• Set realistic expectations: Perfectionists often set unrealistic expectations for themselves, which can lead to feelings of failure and inadequacy. Practice setting more realistic goals and standards, and celebrate progress and accomplishments along the way.

• Focus on learning and growth: Rather than focusing solely on outcomes, focus on the learning and growth that comes with the process. Embrace mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning.

• Seek support and feedback: Perfectionists may struggle with asking for help or feedback, which can lead to isolation and feelings of inadequacy. Seek support from trusted friends or colleagues, and be open to constructive feedback.

• Celebrate your successes: Perfectionists often downplay their accomplishments and may struggle to recognize their own successes. Take time to celebrate your achievements and give yourself credit for your hard work.

• Practice self-care: Perfectionism and imposter syndrome can be draining and stressful. Take time to practise self-care and prioritise your mental and physical health.

By practising self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, setting realistic expectations, focusing on learning and growth, seeking support and feedback, celebrating your successes, and practising self-care, you can overcome perfectionism and imposter syndrome and achieve greater success and fulfilment in your personal and professional life.